Simple formula for simple living


Live beneath your means
Return everything you borrow
Stop blaming other people
Admit it when you make a mistake
Give away clothes not worn to charity
Do something nice and try not to get caught
Listen more; talk less
Everyday take a 30 min walk
Strive for excellence not perfection
Be on time do not make excuses
Don’t argue. Get organised
Be kind to unkind people
Let someone cut ahead of you in the line
Take time to be alone
Cultivate good manners
Be humble
Realise and accept that life is not fair
Know when to keep your mouth shut
Go an entire day without criticising anyone
Learn from the past
Plan for the future
Live in the present
Don’t sweat the small stuff, it’s all small stuff.

I am not sure who the author of this well-known strategy is. I read somewhere that it could have come from a Quaker newsletter, and if anyone knows I would be interested to hear. Regardless of where it originated, I believe it is true:) I have added a few of my own….

What I’ve learned and what I wrote on the eve of turning 60….
Don’t chase they money
Don’t try and be perfect
Be, more than do
Be passionate about whatever you do
Never settle for second best
Be present in your life every minute
Be the best you can be on any given day
‎Practice mindfulness
Try and create something new each day, a thought, an idea, an artwork, or writing
Do not spend your life trying to live up to others’ expectations
Be yourself
The only thing you must live up to is your integrity…. nothing else.
Be kind
Be grateful
Be compassionate
Know what you do today comes back at you tomorrow – Good or bad
It takes a long time to build something up – But just one second, one small slip, one wrong word, to bring it all crumbling down
Delay gratification
Connect with the earth
Do random acts of kindness
Eat well
Sleep well
Stay strong, mentally and physically



My new life and lockdown….

Being in isolation, sheltering at home, confined to lockdown, whatever you wish to call it has allowed me, as with many others, to reconsider and re-evaluate my ‘new’ life.

Until now, I have not been able to fully articulate my reasons for the move, my feelings about it, nor what I have experienced over the last 9 months.

But sitting quietly, very quietly, I can reflect about what I love and value of being here.

I ‘bravely’ gave up my most recent 18-year career and big city life to relocated to Prince Albert, a small rural town in the Great Karoo. South Africa. Here I hope to live a simple, considered, authentic life on my own terms, unencumbered by some personal past difficulties and the rigors of “normality”, a place where I can contribute and perhaps connect to a community and myself. Where I have time and space.

Time to be free, to think, create, learn and write. 
Space to adventure.

To walk in the veld, unhindered by time or crime that allows me to feel and be present. Touching and smelling plants, stepping over uneven hard terrain, exploring dry riverbeds, crunching dry mud flakes barefoot on empty dams, climbing steep rocky and yet unexplored gorges, while at all times being aware of the solitude, beauty and subtle opulence that surrounds me.

Cycling, uninhibited by traffic and tarred roads, travelling kilometres on hard-packed dirt roads, jeep racks and animal paths seeking out windmills and reservoirs, scattered through arid sheep country, sometimes hindered, and challenged by corrugations, headwinds, and horse flies! But, with warm wind on my face, fresh unpolluted air carrying a myriad of new fragrances, encouraging me to breathe deeply and slowly – nature’s own meditation.

Adventuring in my very competent 4×4 Jimny, carefully learning the limits of ‘her’ capability, and overcoming my ‘what if’s’. I feel like I can go ‘where no (wo)man has gone before’ I feel tough and fearless, and what’s on the other side is always exciting and constantly fulfills my curiosity!

Endless vistas of undeveloped dry land, dolerite sills, the magnificent Swartberg Mountains and rocky, ancient post-glacial outcrops scattered across the mostly flat landscape – littered with hundreds of species of xerophytic plants and animals that have adapted to this harsh, but beautiful landscape. Strewn with a collection of stones, fossils, rocks and meteorites, a petrologists dream! Hidden caves with rock paintings, ceramic fragments and flint tools of the amazing Bushmen who shared this place.

Finding water in this place has become such a joy for me. Whether it is from an isolated, noisy, rusty windmill pumping up a few drops at a time and slowly filling a reservoir generated from a gentle breeze, to paddling barefoot in the perennial rivers that run through the Swartberg range. Water is life. To quote from a late friend – ‘Water has no enemy’
On the hottest day in the remotest driest of places, where there is water there are a myriad of living creatures, from minuscule unidentifiable creepies, worms, ants, spiders and scorpions, tortoises, birds, snakes, sheep, buck, all manner of flying insects who all survive and thrive in these miniature biomes…. it’s fascinating!   

Sounds of utter and complete silence or the gentle rustle of a cooling summer breeze through thin acacia leaves. The deafening frightening tropical thunderstorms, with the frantic rushing sound of flooding rivers after a deluge, the distant call of an evening owl and of a daytime turtle dove – have all become my music – far from the madding crowd.

Visions of magnificent (and ordinary), transitory sunrises and sunsets. Night skies overflowing with stars falling onto distant horizons, all humble me and fill me with gratitude.

Kind, friendly people from every walk of life, hardworking resilient characters, and creatives, with whom I feel I can relate. People who acknowledge and greet on every occasion with a wave or a smile – there is no indifference here.

All of this is my new life. I am living :)